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The Opposite of Love Is Not Hate, But Indifference


Love and hate are often seen as two opposing emotions, but is hate really the opposite of love? Shockingly, the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. Indifference is a lack of interest, concern, or sympathy, and it can be a powerful force in our relationships and our lives.


Indifference can distract us from what is truly important. It can make us feel disconnected from others and can prevent us from forming meaningful relationships. In some cases, indifference can even lead to apathy or feelings of despair.


Some time ago, I asked my son to do something and the his witty response was, "If I did that, I would have to care more."


It was hilariously simple, but incredibly insightful.


Thankfully, that exchange was based on superficial circumstance. But imagine if my son responded like that to something really important to me.


While you might not have heard that response explicitly, I imagine you have felt that kind of apathy from a friend or loved one at some time or another -


Your boss doesn't acknowledge your hard work on a project.

Your spouse or partner complains about something you didn't do after a long day of working on other tasks.

Your friend dismisses your promotion because she'd rather talk about her life than yours.


Indifference might be subtle, but has an incredible impact on relationships.


To combat indifference, we need to have clear and respectful communication with others. We need to engage with them in a way that values their unique perspectives and experiences. This means actively listening with empathy. It might also mean providing a different perspective.


Kindness and acceptance aren't always the same thing. Sometimes, the kindness and most caring thing we can do for those we are care about it challenge their way or thinking or behaving in a supportive and encouraging way. Constructive disagreement often leads to deeper learning and understanding.


Unfortunately, there are unhealthy ways to interact with people. Aggressive or passive communication styles are universally prevalent and damaging to relationships.


For example, someone may use sarcasm to deflect from their own insecurities or use aggression to exert control over others. On the other hand, someone may be passive and withdraw from interactions or withhold their own thoughts and feelings.



The opposite of passive and aggressive communication is assertive communication. Assertive communication is respectful, clear, and honest. It allows us to be true to ourselves while also being true to others. This means we can express our thoughts and feelings in a way that is clear and respectful, while also listening to others with an open mind.


Graciously sharing our thoughts is one of the most honorable and kind ways to love those around us. It forms dignified connection, expresses vulnerability, and leads to healthy communication.


The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. Indifference can be a powerful force in our lives, preventing us from forming meaningful relationships and distracting us from what is truly important. To combat indifference, we need to have clear and respectful communication with others, and use an assertive communication style that allows us to be true to ourselves while also being true to others.



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